I never open an article like this, but you really don’t need to read this all the way through to the end…the next line will do:


I. If you think they will change at some point in the future, YOU ARE WRONG

Flirty people will be flirty people from their first breath to their last. This is not something that will go away, or that will change at some point in the future. It’s in their DNA, it’s how they operate, it’s part of who they are. If you cannot handle this sort of behavior there is no point in you sticking around with them.

II. If you think their love for you will be a motivating aspect for them to change, YOU ARE WRONG

Flirty people feel empowered by their flirtatious ways and this is not something they will ever let go off willingly. The most common “change” is that they will flirt more discreetly when you are around. In time, they will get better and better at it, to the point that perhaps you will hardly notice, and think that this phase has now passed. But you are going to be wrong about this every step of the way…once a flirt ALWAYS a flirt. Don’t ever think this behavior will stop, the moment you are out of sight, they will go back to their regular flirty behavior.

III. Don’t ever let them play the flirting topic down

Of course they are going to try and play it down! It’s all a win for them if they make this a non-issue so they can carry on flirting unhindered. But I’ll repeat it again, there is no point in talking about this. If they flirt, you walk. Done.

IV. Don’t allow them to turn it around and make it sound like it is YOU that doesn’t get it

How is your partner’s flirting something you should “get”? What most people in a relationship understand is that you are committed to each other, not only emotionally but also to respect each other. Each time your partner flirts with another person, they are spitting on the face of your relationship.

V. The instant that you realize you are with a flirty partner, YOU NEED TO WALK AWAY IMMEDIATELY

The biggest waste of time in this case is to try and reason with them. They will say whatever they need to say to keep you calm, but these are just hollow words. Their nature is not something they can change and they know it. Given they know they cannot change this part of themselves (in any permanent way at least), the only thing they can do is tell you what you want to hear and see how long that works.

VI. There is HUGE support from the media to sustain this flirty behavior

There are entire armies of YouTubers, TikTokers, influencers, artists, singers, movies, songs, TV series, etc. bombarding them telling them that what they are doing is perfectly alright. DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP OF THINKING THAT YOU ARE IN THE WRONG ON THIS TOPIC. Feeling deceived by your partner’s flirtatious conduct is completely normal. The fact that 1,000 influencers bang on the door day and night screaming that flirting while in a relationship is the cool thing to do only reveals the state of mind these pathetic people are in. They often believe this is how you can “prove your worth”, “maintain your value in the market”, and “get what you want, when you want it”. It’s all about the “ME” culture, and that has NO PLACE IN A GENUINE RELATIONSHIP.

VII. What do you think is the ultimate point of flirting?

If you would ask a flirt, they will spend hours trying to convince you this is harmless fun, that there is nothing to it, and that nothing will ever come out of it. If you believe that, there is a bridge in San Francisco I would like to talk to you about. Flirting ALWAYS has a consequence or a result of some kind. If it is not on the exact same moment the flirting takes place, it will happen later. As you partner keeps on putting that “vibe” out there, more and more people know that they are “up for it”. Now that they have communicated this to the world, it’s just a matter of time ’till someone comes knocking at that door.

VIII. If you know your partner is a flirt, and decide to stay, you are entirely to blame for your pain

It is futile to expect they will change their behavior permanently, so it falls upon you to do something about it. As painful as it is, the only solution to this situation is you walking away from them. If you stay, you know exactly what to expect, and you are the only one to blame. In the same way you cannot blame a lion for killing a deer, you cannot blame a flirt for eventually cheating on you. Walk away before the inevitable happens, if you don’t, you will only have yourself to blame.

IX. Once you walk away, it’s crucial you don’t repeat the same mistake and end up with another flirt

Make sure you:

  1. Are clear to your new partner as to where you stand with the flirting topic at the very start.
  2. Let them know the reason why you ended your previous relationship, and be very clear you are more than willing to do it again at the slightest manifestation of it.
  3. Observe them carefully. You should have gathered enough experience by know regarding how flirts camouflage their flirting.

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