Dating Men – My 10 red flags | The Site for Solos, Living Apart Together (LAT), Singles, & Nomads

After years of being in the dating circuit, you kind of don’t want to make the same mistakes all over again…and again…. “Lists are a good tool”, I thought to myself. So I made one. I must say though, this is a very personal list, and by no means would I presume my red flags are your red flags – so just keeping it real here 🙂

He is rude to the waitress / waiter

Very often, people that are rude to the service staff purely because they see themselves as being in a “higher” position, translates into them being very arrogant in other areas of life.

He is comfortable with saying “little lies”

The distance between outright lying when you are comfortable with little lies is not that big of a jump.

He needs me to constantly validate his looks

A bit of positive reinforcement, especially at the beginning of the relationship, is quite understandable. A constant demand for compliments, is not.

A substantial part of his life revolves around social media

If his life is intertwined in social media -to the point it is intrinsically a part of his real life- this is not something I want to be a part of.

He is not genuinely interested in my life

So, what’s the point? Why am I here?

Brings his ex up regularly during conversation

If you are not over her, you are not over here.

Checks his phone while we’re in the middle of a conversation

There are manners, and then manners we really do care about. This for me is a cardinal sin. You grab your phone in the middle of a talk, and I am gone by the time you look up.