• Way too much make-up

This is an automatic turn off.  The only thing I can think of when I see a woman wearing blotches of product is…So, what do you look like without makeup?  But that is not the main issue, the problem that I have with this, is that if you are not confident about being who you are right off the bat, then there might be a chest full of insecurities I don’t really want to deal with.   

  • Is late – and doesn’t apologize

Being late is already 0 – 1, but being late and doing as if that doesn’t deserve even a hint of an apology…that’s disrespectful…on an occasion that we are supposed to be doing our best.

  • Turns every conversation to herself

When you are getting to know each other, the idea is to listen to what the other has to say.  If everything you say, she rewires it so latches on to her…then why am I talking?

  • Cannot follow the thread of the conversation
  • ME: “…I was holding on to the rope with one hand, and with the other, I was trying to reach Gary before he fell into the precipice…” 
  • HER: “Hey! Funny! My brother’s name is Gary!  He’s a really nice guy.  I think he has a rope too.”
  • ME: “Check please, thanks!”

  • Acts like a man

Every now and then you come across the type that wants to show you, “I AIN’T AFRAID OF NO MAN!” This can manifest itself in different ways:

  • The overly frequent use of curse words
  • The overly frequent use of curse words when they don’t make any sense at all 
  • Telling really raunchy jokes
  • Try to intimidate you

If I wanted to date a guy, I would have asked Gary.

  • She expects you to pay for everything

In case you didn’t hear, we are both equal.  

  • Doesn’t look like her profile photos

It is incredible how many times this happens.  Some posted photos of 8-10 years ago because they thought they still looked like that…or heavily photoshopped pictures…or even worse, photos that are not theirs…yikes!  Forrest, you know what to do.

  • Orders food, but doesn’t eat it

You should have learned this lesson when you were 7…if your parents dropped the ball…12…but to be a grown woman and not haven’t gotten this one down…is not a great start.

  • Doesn’t turn off her phone

Unless you are expecting a call from the Avengers, turn your phone off.  It’s just basic politeness.  

Now, if it rings and you pick up…”It has been a pleasure, please enjoy the rest of your evening.” 

  • Has thousands of social media followers

If you’ve never dated anyone that lives for social media, my experience has been that it feels like if you are going out with someone’s shell.  This is not to say everyone in this world is like that, but most of the ones I’ve met, have social media embedded into their every day, everything they do, everything they think is laced with it.  

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